Worthiness is a big issue in our society.

We are repeatedly given told that we are not worthy: that we are not thin enough, rich enough, successful enough, smart enough and so on.

We've got to stop waiting to feel worthy and just choose it!

Look at the advertising campaigns on television and social media. 

They pander to fear, saying that our self-worth is determined from the outside.

This is a lie.  We are not worthy because of the car we drive, the clothes we wear, the schools we attend, the degrees we have, the job we hold, the size of our home or the wealth of our friends.  These are all temporal.  We can't take them with us when we die.

We are all worthy from the inside out, not the outside in.

We have all made mistakes which, in hindsight, would have handled differently. That's part of life.

Our mistakes don't make us unworthy of love.

Even if we've caused harm, it just means we have a mess to clean up.  We can do that.  We can learn and grow from our experiences.  It's a choice. Choosing to love ourselves is the key. It's not selfish to first love ourselves.  It's the foundation we need to love another.

Our cup of love is so full, it overflows to share with others.

We no longer feel like we are running on empty and need someone or something else to fill us up.  We no longer feel the need to look outside of ourselves for love, when we are love ourselves.

It's much more self-empowering to fill our own buckets with love and then to share the overflow with everyone else in our lives.

We can take our feelings and experiences in and turn them into either love or fear.

When we turn them into love, we acknowledge how we feel and what we've experienced. We stop judging and just letting it go.

Maybe we could have done better. That's okay.  We can review how we went and choose to do things differently next time.

But, judging our feelings or experiences just means that we are dragging the past around with us, and that's not very pleasant.

So, we drop the judgment and we feel our feelings and experiences with gratitude a 88, both expressions of love.

When we do this all the cells of our bodies resonate with more love, and that's a great service to the planet.

We could use a lot more unconditional love on earth, and it starts with each of us choosing to take life in and turn it into love.

During the holidays and beyond, it’s so important to be kind, patient and tolerant, with ourselves first and foremost, and then with others.

To me, being kind means acknowledging the benevolence of the Universe, that she has my back; that there’s a purpose, a reason for everything that I’m experiencing in my life, and I can take those experiences and use them to evolve and grow, to be more of my best self.  Even in the most heartbreaking moments, I can use my heartbreak to experience more love and compassion. 

With kindness, I know in my heart of hearts that the love and support of the Universe is always with me, and I am never alone; that flooding my heart with kindness helps me to see and experience people and events during the holidays in the best light.

Patience is about being without expectation.  Expectations during the holidays can lead to depression and disappointment.  When I choose to be fully present in the moment without any pre-conceived ideas how people will act or how a gathering may be, I free myself up to be pleasantly surprised; I’m open to enjoying all the moments; I’m open to whatever that experience brings. 

Tolerance is about open-mindedness.  It’s about looking for the similarities I have with other people and using that as a basis to interact and connect, instead of focusing on the differences. 

With tolerance, I can have a meaningful conversation with someone that has political, religious and world views that are 180 degrees opposite to mine, while maintaining clear and appropriate boundaries.  In our humanness, we have many things in common, family, friends, trips, experiences, difficulties, the ups the downs, the trials and tribulations of life.  

Tolerance helps me do more than survive some holiday gatherings; it helps me to connect with ones I don’t usually choose to socialize with in a mutually supportive way, to enjoy myself and thrive.

Feeling unworthy is a huge block to our success, to feeling loved and a heartfelt content with who we are and how we are living and enjoying our life. 

And the amazing thing that no one tells us is that worthiness is a choice. We can choose to feel worthy and be worthy of love, success, and a wonderful life.

What’s in the way is patterning and programming that we’ve taken on that feeds our inner critic, that reminds us of why we can’t do something, of when we failed or make mistakes, of when we were less than perfect.

Worthiness is about being glad to be who we are and not wanting to be anyone else, not thinking anyone else’s life is more desirable than ours. 

Worthiness is about taking up space, not contracting and playing small, expanding and being the best we can be in any given moment, still knowing that there will always be a better way and always room for ever-growing and expanding improvement.

Worthiness is about loving ourselves as we are, warts and all.

We know and accept that we are not perfect and that we make mistakes. We acknowledge our mistakes and use them as opportunities to expand and grow. 

Worthiness is about loving and approving of ourselves we are and will always be a work in progress, and yet we still deserve all the beauty, wonder and joy that life has to offer. 

Worthiness is about being kind to self, being an inner coach, championing, acknowledging, and encouraging ourselves.

People that know that they are worthy of love, success and the best life has to offer are kind to themselves physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. 

They love and take care of their bodies. They see the imperfections and are mindful to drink pure water, get enough sleep and eat foods that are filled with love and provide the nourishment needed in the moment.

They love and take care of themselves emotionally.  They feel their feelings, no matter how painful or difficult, holding them in a space of gratitude, acceptance and love and let them go, allowing more unconditional love and higher to fill them up.

They know that avoiding and denying their emotions and feelings, that pushing them away will only cause more pain, harm, and heartache in the long run, and that there is no time like now.

They love taking care of themselves mentally.  They choose to be aware of negative thoughts and ways of thinking that they’ve taken on from others or chosen themselves and find ways to let them go.

They choose to say no to the inner critic and yes to their inner coach as a constant and continuous ongoing process, ever mindful to be humble and aware of negative influences within and around them.

They love taking care of themselves spiritually, filling themselves up with love, loving the kids and teens inside of them that got frozen in time with life happening and need their guidance, love and encouragement. 

They love nourishing the mind, body, and soul on an ongoing basis. 

Most of us have areas in our life where we feel worthy and others not so much.

We may feel worthy and competent in business, at work or in our professional life and not worthy in terms of personal, romantic relationships.

We may feel worthy in terms of our body, being athletic, healthy, and strong, and not worthy in terms of artistic endeavors.

If we don’t feel worthy on any level or in any realm such as the business world, in relationships or regarding the quality of our life we can work with creative visualization and practice taking one small step forward at a time. 

We can give ourselves permission to feel uncomfortable.

We can choose to keep showing up and giving it a go. 

We can choose over and over again to step over the line into worthiness and allows ourselves to visualize and feel that alternative, available reality of our world and our life.

Remember and affirm:

I am glad to be me.

I am happy to take up space.

I approve of myself.

I am kind to myself.

I love myself.