Welcome to What Makes a Good Coach, Part 5: Loving Confront
A good coach knows that there is a time and place to lovingly confront her client, to bring to the client's attention something they have been refusing to acknowledge or see, to bring to the client's attention what's been blocking resolution of an aspiration or goal that they've brought to table.
A good coach knows that the expansive, unconditionally supportive coaching presence that she holds opens doors for the client to explore and resolve what the client has been unable or unwilling to turn around and see.
This loving confront takes courage, empathy, conviction and a deep willingness to serve, which all good coaches share. We desire to serve our clients, to walk alongside them in a way that facilitates new realizations and inspirations and positive steps forward.
A good coach knows how to lovingly confront her clients with something they are missing, avoiding, denying or pretending doesn't exist.
For example, a client may defer to the people at work, be a doormat and agree to take on more work than they can handle. At home, the client may be strict, controlling and unreasonable with their children, like the tyrant they succumb to at work.
The client may be unaware that their behavior is driving away the people that are closest to them, that the client truly loves and things will never leave her, no matter the depth of her behavior.
When there's something that's obvious and profound tha the client doesn't see, it can help for the coach to name it so that the client can decide 'Where to from here?'
Then, it's up to the client to welcome or dismiss the coach's sharing as relevant or irrelevant to their life and their goals.
For the good coach, however the client decides to work or not work with what's on offer is fine. She knows that no matter what, all will unfold for the client in diving timing and diving order.